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This post started out as a comment on a Facebook page. It got too long, so I erased it and made it into a post on my wall. But then that got too long, so I moved it here.
Perry Noble was my pastor back in South Carolina, and he often would talk about things that other pastors would shy away from. He would talk a lot about how to handle tough situations. In one sermon, people could text in questions, and someone asked how to handle a relationship with a friend who is homosexual. The woman didn't feel it was right, and wanted to know the best way to be her friend, while still standing up for what she believes in.
I know I have about 3 different types of readers. Some of you are shocked that a pastor would address that in a large group. Others of you are casually reading this and thinking I wonder what he says. The rest of you are shocked that this is even an issue.
But what Perry said (and I'm paraphrasing) was that you can win the argument or you can win the relationship.
My interpretation of that? You can fight over it and tell them you think they're wrong until you're blue in the face, but you will lose the relationship. Or, you can let them know where you stand, and then continue to have a friendship.
This also goes for your children who are adults. When you disagree with what they're doing, remember that you can win the argument or you can win the relationship.
When you lose the relationship, everyone loses.
**By the way, I am also a human, and therefore, not perfect. While I do strive to build a relationship rather than win an argument, I know that I'm not always good at that.**