Someone's Pastor's Wife.

I've loved Anita Renfroe since the first time I saw her at a Women of Faith conference.  I think it was about 10 years ago?  She's hilarious.  If you don't know her, here's one of her more famous songs:




She's a comedienne & singer.  Funny stuff, and all clean.  She's also responsible for the All the Wrinkled Ladies parody of All the Single Ladies and tons of other funny parodies!

When I saw her in person one thing she said stuck with me more than anything else.  She was talking about her husband & how he used to be a pastor.  After her comedienne gig picked up, he resigned to become her road manager.  She said, "I was someone's pastor's wife."

This woman who had joked about tampons & boobs and made us laugh until we nearly peed our pants was someone's pastor's wife.  It was a game changer for me.  It took pastor's wives out of the well-put-together-soft-spoken-perfectly-coiffed-hair mold that I had put them in.

Which was good, because that's exactly what I ended up being.  Seven years ago I watched as several men of God prayed over my husband & he was ordained as a minister.  I was 20 years old, ya'll.  A kid.  And suddenly I was a pastor's wife.

I knew I wasn't cut out to be the well-put-together pastor's wife of my past.  And Anita Renfroe taught me that I didn't have to.  I could just be me, and that was good enough.

Over the years I think that has shocked some people, but I'm so thankful that I've never had to be something I am not.  I wear my jeans to church, my kid only wears dresses when someone else buys them for her, and I'm not that great of a cook.  Heck, I'm not even that great of a friend, but I'm learning.  But Jesus still loves me & still uses us for His ministry.  Even when we screw up.

So here's to all the pastor's wives that have broken the mold for the rest of us, allowing us to be who we really are.  Thank you.