Comparison is the thief of joy. -Theodore Roosevelt
There are a lot of contradicting messages out there to soak in. Pinterest is full of amazing decorations, parties, lunches, etc. There are countless blog posts from moms practically bragging that they don't have it all together... that their house is messy & their kids ate Doritos for dinner. And don't even get me started on parenting tirades covering everything from infant sleep to breastfeeding to discipline.
Here's the thing. I'm definitely not an 'everyone gets a trophy' type of person, but sometimes, that's just the way it is. This world needs all types, so please, find your type & go with it!
Love who you are.
And instead of cutting someone else down or making it seem uncool... appreciate it. Appreciate them. Celebrate whatever it is.
If you are great at decorating, awesome. Please always take pictures & post them on Pinterest! Yes, be a show off. Be proud of yourself. And the rest of us need to cheer you on.
Is you house constantly messy? Are you okay with it? If so, then embrace it. Don't skip over posting a cute picture of your kid because the background is messy. Your kid is cute, so celebrate it. And the rest of us need to celebrate it, too.
Is your kid not sleeping? Sure-- search the interwebs for some ideas! But also, remember that every kid is different. I found a method that worked absolutely wonderful for my kid and yes, I would highly suggest you use it for yours. But you may choose another route & that's okay. It's the beauty of having your own kid-- you get to craft him/her into a tiny human that you like.
I could go on & on. Every mom could. It's a constant barrage of messages we're met with each day.
So I'm working to do my part & I hope you do, too! What's your part, you ask?
Each time I feel myself thinking too much about something, I think of a way to celebrate it.
Does someone's Facebook post bother you? Find a way to celebrate. See a friend who just had a baby & looks amazing? (WAY more amazing than you ever did after having a baby?) Celebrate it. Share in her joy. Really truly celebrate.
Comparison is the thief of joy because there is no comparison. We're just not all the same. You can't compare yourself to an 18 year old version of you, or a 34 year old version of anyone else.
Love who you are.